Auld Lang Syne. . .

“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.” – Benjamin Franklin

My blog has been quiet for a few weeks. I have been working through some health issues, however, now, with Christmas past, and a new year approaching, I decided to write a last post before closing out 2013.

It’s not uncommon to look back on the past and to consider our mistakes and our losses. I do not plan to do that! I plan to move on with vigor and purpose toward the goals I have set for myself. I cannot change the mistakes; I can only learn life lessons from them and continue on. It would be easy to think “I could a; should a; would a . . . but I’ve made a decision not to “should” on myself! Having said that, I am looking forward to a fantastic year in 2014!

In the words of the Apostle Paul, “Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 3:13-14”  So. . . I press on.

I press on to new things and new adventures!  Our lives are not dress rehearsals for the big show, this IS the BIG SHOW! We get one shot and the older I get, the more I understand our moment in the human dialog is fleeting at best.  I am passionate about making my moment count. I intend to be ready for the cue to my big scene!

I want the new year to find me a better woman. I want 2014 to be a year of reconciliation, peace and forgiveness.  Life is too short to allow fear and anger to intrude on my peace.  I plan to be available when opportunity comes knocking to do a good thing, to bless a neighbor, a co-worker or family member.

I can’t wait to see what wonderful experiences the new year brings! Maybe, just maybe, someone will produce the flying car I’ve been waiting for since I first saw the JETSONS flying theirs!

“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice.” – T.S. Eliot

Autumn Reflections. . .

“No spring nor summer's beauty hath such grace
As I have seen in one Autumnal face....”
~John Donne, "Elegy IX: The Autumnal"

Fredrick Edwin Church--Autumn

As I left my driveway this morning, I couldn’t help noticing the poplar trees that line our driveway are nearly bare, their leaves scattered across the yard mixing with the vibrant hues of those from the big maple tree in the side yard.  It’s a lovely season full of harvest celebration and thanksgiving.  Autumn marks the end of summer with the last blushes of sunny warmth and the onset of crisp mornings. It is the last rites of Summer ushering in the sharp bite of Winter’s cold.

For me, autumn brings with it a certain melancholy.  It was in October, six years ago, that I said goodbye to my brother Don.  Since his death, each year, I face this transitional season with some trepidation; some renewal of painful recollection.  I am one of four siblings and we have always been four parts of a whole. Now, we are three.  I can’t begin to describe the hole his passing left in our lives.  Suffice it to say, that a part of myself was lost when we lost him.  He never had a chance to live his autumn years, but the years he lived, he lived well. He laughed, loved and lived without condition and was an inspiration to those he mentored and served.  He wasn’t perfect but he was good and he absolutely lived his convictions.

As I contemplate my own autumn, I wonder whether I am loving and living so well.  Am I consistently living my convictions?  I realize that, in the words of Joe L. Wheeler:

 “Time remorselessly rumbles down the corridors and streets of our lives. But it is not until autumn that most of us become aware that our tickets are stamped with a terminal destination... that whatever can be done with our thoughts, words, and actions must be done soon. As we hypnotically watch the steadily diminishing reserve of sand in Life's hourglass, the instincts of a miser surface. Life is now savored, sipped as with a fine nineteenth-century French wine.... It is during the autumn of our lives that this inner vintage begins to sculpt and paint the face as it seeps through the skin from within.” (Remote Controlled: How TV Affects You and Your Family)

Fall is a time to clean up gardens and flower beds.  It is time to plant bulbs and new perennials and to prune roses and trees.  I have realized that my autumn season can be a productive, beautiful season.  Though the flowers of summer are spent, the fruit of autumn is most excellent!  Autumn is the perfect time to take account of what we've done, what we didn't do, and what we'd like to do next year.  Autumn is a mellow season that calls to mind warm socks and sweaters, homemade soup and apple cider.  It’s a time to gather with our families for celebration and a time to be thankful for our own seasons.

Time marches on and each of us have a limited amount.  I plan to spend mine wisely in this season, my autumn. . .

“There is a harmony
In autumn, and a luster in its sky...”
~Percy Bysshe Shelley

Love And Other Contemplations. . .

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death. 

(Elizabeth Barrett Browning)

My husband and I recently celebrated forty years of wedded bliss! Wait, really? Wedded bliss? I have to be honest here, it has not been blissful every day of those forty years (I’m smiling as I contemplate). So, if it’s not always blissfully wonderful, what makes a couple continue in a marriage relationship for forty, fifty or sixty years? Simply said, we took a vow in front of friends and family and we love one another. That’s why. 

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines vow as “a serious promise to do something or to behave in a certain way.” The transitive verb is; 1-- to promise solemnly, or to swear and 2-- to bind or consecrate by a vow. Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s poem describes in dramatic terms, a love that transcends time and while I’m not a particularly romantic soul, I did solemnly swear to love and respect my spouse “til death do us part.” 

When I consider my years of marriage in parts and pieces, there have been times when we have faced hard issues and tough circumstances. We have struggled with communication and have sometimes not understood each other. We have had relationship issues, financial issues, child rearing issues and countless other difficulties but through it all, we have loved and respected one another. When I look at the sum of our forty years together, the good far out-weighs the bad! 

Let me clarify, we have not always liked each other (smiling again) but love is always in the mix! The Bible tells us that “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)” That is especially true in marriage. Each day is an exercise in extending grace to each other. I can’t give you a date and time when the “me” became “we,” but I know for any marriage or relationship to survive, it has to be about “us.”  

My husband’s name means, “harmonious/handsome” and my name means “warlike/brave hearted.” Most folks, who know us well, would say those names are very descriptive of our characters. My husband is a lover and an encourager and I (though it’s hard to own sometimes) am a warrior. I am restless and ambitious but my husband is contented, loving, and a rock for me in difficult times. You might wonder how that works out for us. Actually, it works out pretty well most of the time. However, there are times when even after all the years together, we have to work hard at forgiveness and grace. 

My husband is very patient with my warlike tendencies and he seems to know how to soothe my ruffled feathers. I know he needs to feel appreciated and valued. He wants our home to be peaceful and he does his best to contribute to that. What makes our efforts worthwhile? For starters, we have three wonderful children who still like to come home to visit! We have five terrific grandchildren that enjoy visiting Nana and Papa! We have a lovely life together that we have worked hard to build, and last, but certainly not least, we have each other. 

If I could somehow share with young marriages how good it feels to be where we are now, I’m convinced they would try hard to hold it together through the hard times. We started out friends and we are still best friends. We enjoy spending time together and whether we are doing something fun and exciting or watching our favorite TV program, there is a kind of contentment we don’t find with anyone else. We can sit quiet together for hours without uncomfortable silence but we also have interesting conversations about any and everything. 

We were teenagers when we took our vows, and looking back over the last forty years, I would do it over again, in a heartbeat. So, in spite of my less than romantic inclinations, I think Ms. Browning captured the essence of soul deep love.  “. . . I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life!. . .”

Rain . . .

“Be still, sad heart! and cease repining;
behind the clouds is the sun still shining;
Thy fate is the common fate of all,
into each life some rain must fall,
Some days must be dark and dreary.” (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow)

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. . ."  I was a young mother with beautiful children, a terrific husband and wonderful future. Then on a chilly spring day, I was diagnosed with cancer for the first time. Not just any old garden variety cancer either, malignant melanoma, a very deadly type of skin cancer was my diagnosis. I remember thinking, "'Why me?" and then almost immediately, "Well heck, why not me?"

Twice more, the big "C" came back to haunt me. A lot of prayer, two surgeries and a year of immunotherapy in a clinical study left me cancer free for the past 26 years but a few weeks ago, I got a call on my recent mammogram. Now, it's been my experience that nothing good comes of a doctor calling me. They don't call to chat me up. They call when they have something to tell me that I'm not going to want to hear!

Long story short, I was right. Turns out, I have what has been identified as papillary carcinoma. Only about 1 to 2 percent of women with breast cancer have this type. Am I lucky or what? I should buy a lottery ticket!

Seriously though, the good news is; this cancer is slow growing and rarely spreads beyond its margins. It is very treatable and recovery rates are about 98 percent. I am not afraid of facing down my nemesis. I've been there, done that and bought several tee shirts!  But now I'm told that, because of my personal history and my family history (that's another story for future posting), further genetic study is required before an appropriate treatment protocol can be recommended. So, I wait, and I don't let the myriad of issues consume me. I stay in the present and focus on the here and now.

We all go through rainy seasons in life but as a person of faith, I'm confident I will get through this. A wise man once said, "My faith does not rest in my interpretation of my circumstances. My faith rests in the character of God. (C.H. Yadon)"   

I'm looking forward to the rainbow . . . after the rain.





South of Twin Falls after the rain.



Welcome To My Blog!

For some time, I have wanted to write (or rant) about my observations on life, love and anything else that captures my attention. I did not want to be encumbered by limited characters like Twitter's 140 and I did not want to force my homilies onto unwilling readers by having them pop up in Facebook's news feed. So, voila! My tech savvy daughter introduced me to the blog-o-sphere!

Now, here I am with a blog. I know, I know; you might wonder, because I do, is anyone interested in reading my blog? Well, my children, by nature of our relationship, will be obligated to peruse it and I think my sister may read it. Beyond that, I'm not sure anyone else will give it the time of day. Still, something is moving me to express myself in a new way.

I'll do my poor best not to bore my readers (if I end up with any) and will endeavor to inspire or failing that, to entertain. At any rate, here I go. . .off on this new adventure! I hope you'll join me from time to time.